The Writing
Essays on living
the unbound life.
Writing on identity, freedom, integrity, and the cost of living a life that is not yours. Published since 1997. Read one and see what lands.
Healing Became Your Identity
A man has been in therapy for six years and is not getting better. Not because he did anything wrong. Because somewhere in the honest work, healing became who he is.
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The Mildew in the Vents
Six weeks of unrelated symptoms, treated one at a time, before anyone finds the mildew feeding all of them. Most relationships run...
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Paid to the Right Address
The marriage does not get lighter because it becomes stronger. It gets lighter because it finally stops being billed for a debt...
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God Did Not Make a Spiritual Version of You
God Did Not Make a Spiritual Version of You Part eight of a series on the Religion Mask and what it costs...
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THE FANTASY THAT’S KILLING YOU: When You Need Others to Be What You Imagine
You've been telling yourself it's safer this way. That if you keep your distance, if you stay in the idea of them...
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To See Someone Whole
The most loving thing anyone has ever done to me was decline my explanation. The person you are editing is not being...
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The Myth of the Blank Page
The blank page was never empty. It was crowded with every judge you ever had. The fear of starting is proof the...
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The Horizon Moves
On the future self you keep chasing, and why the gap is a compass, not a failure.
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What It Looks Like to Stand
The closing essay in the You're Not Crazy series. A concrete, hope-forward picture of what changes once you stop negotiating your own...
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What Gets Made in the Dark
Before the house wakes, there is a notebook under the dish towels and forty minutes of dark. What you make where nobody...
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