The Writing
Essays on living
the unbound life.
Writing on identity, freedom, integrity, and the cost of living a life that is not yours. Published since 1997.
You Don’t Shed the Act, You Show the Actual
Someone said to me today, "Thank you for helping me shed the act." I let the gratitude land where it was aimed....
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What the Far Shore Is Made Of | Getting Past the Hurt
On release, and on the crossings that never finish Everyone wants to know how the story ends. After the wound and the...
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The Country Between Us | The Journey and the Clarity
On the distance two people have to cross when one has changed and the other still remembers Between the one who was...
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The Face I Used to Wear
On becoming someone new and standing in front of the people who knew the old you There is a mercy in being...
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When You Already Know the Catch – Negative Sentiment
Someone does something kind for you. They bring you coffee without being asked. They remember the thing you mentioned in passing last...
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The Watcher – There is someone standing between you and your life.
You cannot see him, because he stands behind your eyes, facing the same direction you face. He watches everything you watch. He...
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You Would Say You’re Fine
You would say you're fine. If someone asked, that is the word you would reach for. Fine. Work is busy but good....
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The Grief of Setting It Down – Letting the Old Self Go
On the real loss that comes with letting the old self go Almost everyone who begins this work expects relief. They have...
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The Architecture of a False Self
Why you became who you became, and why it was never a lie Long before you could have chosen otherwise, you answered...
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Intimacy Is Shared Reality
On being known, and why it asks more of you than love There is a particular loneliness that has no right to...
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