The Writing
Essays on living
the unbound life.
Writing on identity, freedom, integrity, and the cost of living a life that is not yours. Published since 1997.
What Forgiveness Doesn’t Require
Forgiveness isn't agreement, and it isn't amnesia. A case for holding both a full forgiveness and an accurate memory at the same...
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Stop Performing for the Church
Stop Performing for the Church Part five of a series on the Religion Mask and what it costs the faithful The church...
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The Bargain You Never Signed
On the unspoken deal a quiet husband keeps paying into, and why it never pays out.
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The Toll of Keeping the Peace
Keeping the peace sounds virtuous, until it becomes permanent. A look at what years of self-editing actually cost, and what real peace...
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Why People Rewrite What Happened
Most people who rewrite history aren't lying to you first. They're lying to themselves. A clear look at the mechanism, without excusing...
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Two People, Same Chore | What Identity Does That a Mask Cannot
Picture two sons doing the exact same thing for their mother. Both of them drive to the hospital. Both of them sit...
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The Safe Husband
On the good man who made himself easy to live with, and disappeared.
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The Question That Isn’t a Question
Are you sure that's what happened. Some questions aren't curious, they're instructions. A look at how repeated doubt becomes a reflex.
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Withdrawal is the most respectable exit there is, and that's what makes it so hard to see in yourself. On the half...
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Remembering Is Not Relitigating
Speaking the truth about what happened isn't the same as fighting for a verdict. A case for the difference between remembering and...
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