The Writing
Essays on living
the unbound life.
Writing on identity, freedom, integrity, and the cost of living a life that is not yours. Published since 1997.
Two People, Same Chore | What Identity Does That a Mask Cannot
Picture two sons doing the exact same thing for their mother. Both of them drive to the hospital. Both of them sit with her, bring her food she probably won't eat, help her home when she's discharged, clean the parts of the house she can't...
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The Cry Before the Song
The Cry Before the Song Part three of a series on the Religion Mask and what it costs the faithful Every preacher...
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The Shoe That Never Drops
You are lying in bed next to someone who loves you, and a thought walks in uninvited. What if this is the...
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Why I Stopped Calling It Coaching
The word ran out before the work did
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The Dial
There is a particular kind of hearing loss that men who worked in mills carry, and the strange thing about it is...
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The Weak Moment
A single moment of collapse is not the same thing as being weak. On the quiet renaming that turns a report into...
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The Safe Husband
On the good man who made himself easy to live with, and disappeared.
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The Question That Isn’t a Question
Are you sure that's what happened. Some questions aren't curious, they're instructions. A look at how repeated doubt becomes a reflex.
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Two Things That Aren’t About Your Marriage
on misplaced weight and the difference between hearing and waiting A man comes home from a hard day and can't say why...
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The Door That Was Never Supposed to Open
A man tells me he is slipping. Losing your footing is not the same thing as falling. What happens when a man...
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